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What Partners Can Do to Support a Pregnant Mama

Koala Mama Koala Mama  Follow Mar 10, 2021 · 2 mins read
What Partners Can Do to Support a Pregnant Mama
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My husband and I have known each other for over 20 years now, so parenting and being there for each other seemed very natural. He knew how to support me when I didn’t even know I needed or wanted support in that way. I wrote down some of the things he did as tips and tricks for supporting a pregnant mama.

Becoming a parent changes the dynamic of your relationship, and the postpartum journey can make a big difference in your significant other’s mental health. Being a unit working together and ensuring she feels supported as she heals is extremely important.

During pregnancy:

  • Be patient.
  • If she sounds crazy, you don’t need to point it out hormones are a beast.
  • If she snaps at you, let it go (within reason).
  • Make sure she is drinking plenty of water.
  • Cook simple meals or warm up left overs.
  • Clean all smelly items, toilet, trash, compost, animal poop, etc.
  • Do the dishes.
  • Pack your own hospital bag or at least put out what you want to take.
  • Know the birth plan.
  • Ask if she wants photos of the birth or after birth.
  • Know the communication/social media birth plan.
  • Do not push for visitors until she is ready. (You did not just have a baby come out of you. It is about her!).

During labor:

  • Make sure you are ready to deliver on the birth plan.
  • Help advocate for her and her wishes.
  • Give words of encouragement.
  • Have water and ice ALWAYS ready and offer it to her. ( I drank water between each push).

Post delivery: in hospital

  • Make sure she has water and food/snacks.
  • Diapers- they are all yours!!!
  • Learn to burp the baby.
  • Learn to feed the baby (if you are giving bottles).
  • Ask her if she wants to shower (help, if needed).

Post delivery: at home

  • Make sure she has water!!!
  • Diapers… still yours.. not all but do as many as you can.
  • If it’s a rough night offer to burp the baby so she can go back to sleep after feeding.
  • If she is pumping. Know how to put away& log the breast milk so you can help.
  • Take out the bathroom trash.
  • Do the dishes, including but not limited to pump parts and bottles.
  • Cook meals or reheat meals.
  • Offer to hold the baby so your partner can eat in peace.
  • LET HER SHOWER, say the words “I have the baby why don’t you take some time to shower or rest”.
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